Eggs

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We have been blessed of late with having fresh farm eggs. I did not grow up with this option so it amazed me how these and the grocery store variety are so similar and yet so very different. This is seen in their appearance, taste and especially their toughness. Let me explain.

When I get a carton of farm eggs, the first thing I notice is the variety of sizes. We have everything from small which is a little bigger than a golf ball to large which looks like what I think a goose egg would resemble. We also have different color schemes. They are all brown, but some are darker than others and some even have red colored dots on one side. Farm eggs just taste better too. They are overall better to eat. I do not care if it is a big egg or a spotted one when it comes to filling my stomach. I appreciate the taste more than the contrasts.

What I have found out though is that one difference among the farm eggs is hard to understand if you just look at them. You see when I try to crack them I often use another egg as the solid force. When I began doing this I thought the big eggs would be harder to break, but I quickly found out this is not the case. The big eggs always crack first if using a smaller egg. It is as if the bigger they are, the easier they crack.

I thought about this and decided it is a lot like us. We assume that if someone is big (an adult) they will be able to handle things easier than someone who is small (a child). We just assume one is going to crack before the other and yet when the opposite occurs we are shocked.

I think it is because as adults we allow our appearance and misunderstood assumptions to conceal what is the reality. Adults do worse with grief because they simply do not handle the conflict of emotions as well. Never forget that grief collides with our misconceptions of what life is to be like. We often assume we can handle it or worse it will not happen to us. Some of the most often heard false idea that are floating around are if we do everything right then life will be good or we will have a long life and die peacefully. Children very seldom think these thoughts. They simply deal with grief when it occurs and then they walk day by day as they face it.

One way adults can avoid cracking under pressure is to realize that each day is a gift. Make preparation for the future, but live each day as it comes to you. A crack will only occur if you collide with something. When reality does hit you, handle the conflict and/or grief as best you can. I want to ask those who in

I want to ask those who interact with children to remember that they are learning from you. If you literally fall to pieces then they will think that is a normal reaction. I am not saying you need to remain stoic, but remember your strength is found in your creation not your circumstance. It is also important to realize that you may crack a little under pressure, but you do not have to shatter so that everyone else is trying to pick up the pieces. Life is hard, it hits us when we are not expecting it, but it is not the determining factor in how we flavor our environment. People will remember how circumstances affected you so give them a memory that draws them to your positive distinctive.

The age old question of what comes first the chicken or the egg is really not important. The real question should be what type of egg am I?